How to love a job you hate.

"I hate my job!"

This is a common complaint these days. I hear it constantly from my coaching clients and friends. They cite reasons such as insufficient pay, difficult clients, long hours and unreasonable deadlines; all this while trying to make a living.

We have all felt that way about a job at some point in our lives. The walk to the office has become a hard slog; we watch the clock all day, and we look for any reason to get out of the office for even a few minutes. And at the end of the day, we leave the office like we were shot from a cannon.

The most obvious solution is to quit immediately and find a job you like. However, that may not be the best financial move you can make, so maybe there are ways to make your job more bearable while you look for another one.

Here are four simple strategies that will change the way you look at your job and may even make you like your job again:

1.   Make a list of the things you like about your job. As a lawyer, I liked helping people navigate the legal system to achieve their goals. I also liked working with other lawyers, who I found to be some of the most honorable people in the workplace. And the nice lifestyle my salary afforded me didn’t hurt.

What aspects of your job do you like? Make a list. You might be surprised by how many things you actually like about your job. Once you focus on the positive aspects of your job, the negative ones lose some of their sting.

2.   Be grateful that you have a job. Be grateful for the things it allows you to do. Gratefulness is an amazing tool. Studies show that it actually changes your brain chemistry, and it definitely changes your perspective on things.Once you change your mood from negative to positive, you are in a better frame of mind to look at your life and where you want to go.

Repeat this 5 times: I am grateful for my job. Watch how your mood changes.

3.   Take regular lunch and coffee breaks. There is a temptation to be a hero and work through lunch, but don’t do it. Our brains need a break to stay fresh and remain at peak efficiency, and our bodies need the energy that comes with a meal.

4.   Spend less time at work. This sounds pretty obvious, but hear me out: Are there ways you can be more efficient? Can you work from home? Can you delegate more? Finding a way to spend less time in the office is guaranteed to make you feel better. 

The important thing that all these strategies do is alter your mood. Once you change your perspective, you may see your job in a different light, and you may remember things about your job that make you happy to go to work. Another side effect is that they will make you more productive, which will definitely make you like your job more.

They may not make you love your job, but they will make it easier for you to go to work while you search for a new career. 

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You are going to screw up. Stop worrying about it.

So many people these days are afraid to make a mistake. Yet the only way to get where we want to be is to make mistakes. No one ever got to “experienced,” “successful” or “well-respected” without making mistakes.  The most successful people in business understand this and they don’t let it slow down their progress.

“Failure is a success because it informs you what doesn't work, which is as important as knowing what does.” Peter Bregman

A corporate executive told me that when she met her team, she told them she was going to F#%@ some things up, and she was ok with it. It was a great ice breaker and completely took the pressure off.

Nobody remembers your mistakes anyway. People can’t remember what happened yesterday, so how will they remember a mistake you made last year?

We are the only ones who keep a scorecard of all our mistakes. It’s nice to be able to learn from them, but to judge ourselves stupid or a failure because of a few mistakes is shortsighted. Getting angry, beating ourselves up or apologizing only slows the whole process down.

How does it feel to remove fear of failure from the equation? Imagine if you felt that way about everything? Nothing could stop you.

If you can’t remove the fear of making a mistake, then do what marketing guru Steve Harrison says and “Stumble Forward.” Keep moving forward towards your goals, and know that sometimes you are going to stumble. The important thing is to be ok with stumbling. If you embrace it, it becomes less painful and actually accelerates your progress. And to be honest, it’s what we all do anyway.

Try this exercise: Make a chart with two columns. Label the left side “Mistakes” and the right side “What I learned.” List as many mistakes as you can and what you learned from them.

Would you be where you are today without these mistakes?

It may seem counter intuitive, but you should look forward to making a mistake. Incorporate it into your mindset.  Say to yourself: I look forward to making a mistake. Learn to enjoy making mistakes, because with every mistake you are one step closer to your goal.

Does the fear of making a mistake hold you back from achieving your goals and living the life you dream about?

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How To Find Success

Before we can start down the path to success, isn't it important to know what success is?

True success is based upon what you value. Success is whatever we want to go after; whatever we are driven to do; whatever prompts us to care, to contribute, or to make a difference. It's what whatever makes us feel good. And remember, no matter how you define success, there is no wrong answer.

My Irish Adventure

My Irish Adventure

In October, 2015 I decided to close my law practice and move to Ireland. Practicing law had become completely unsatisfying, and I couldn’t do it anymore. When I climbed the steps to my office every day, my feet felt like they were stuck in cement.  

My time in Ireland gave me the space to think about my life and what I had learned. I also found that in order to get to know yourself, you sometimes have to go back to where you came from.